April 23, 2009

Food For Thought

I was going to write about the good that I think comes from spankings, but I ran out of time and my thoughts are as yet, incomplete. So, maybe next week. In the meantime, I thought I might ask a question and hold my breath waiting to hear some thoughts out there. Go ahead say a little something. I promise I won't bite or spank.

When speaking about disciplinary spanking of young adults / older teens is there always a sexual component to the spanking or can it be completely and utterly platonic?

I'd love to hear some thoughts on the subject and then if you're lucky, I'll let you know mine in a few days.


  1. Great question! This is one that I have given a lot of thought to in the past. I think if a dozen random people witnessed the same spanking they'd all react to it in different ways. When one of those 12 talk about that spanking after the fact their own feelings may show with their word choice, but it is still mainly up to the listener to decide if there is a sexual component to the conversation.

    It's all in the eye of the beholder. I have no doubt that the vast majority of spankings received by older teens are completely non sexual acts. Any sexual feelings that may arise as a result of this are restricted to each individual involved in the process. The idea of spanking is one that often produces a strong sense of satisfaction for those who witness or even discuss it. This satisfaction may be minor and non sexual, or it can be stronger and cause arousal.

    I think most people who have come online seeking more information on spanking have felt at least a little of this. However these feelings are not limited to spanking alone. The same sense of satisfaction can be gained by punishing through other means. Even if it's just an older teen being sent to their room without supper or grounded, we may still feel this. We as humans love when one person's will is imposed on another person. This is much more true of people we consider to be greater or equal to us in status. So when a child becomes an older teen, we often experience a much greater sense of satisfaction in relation to their punishments.

    All that being said, I personally feel it is difficult to have a reasonable conversation about the benefits of spanking without sensing something sexual in it. I just try to ignore it when it isn't appropriate to the conversation. Using this method I have had many platonic and non sexual conversations about spanking in the past. However I can't know what is going on in the mind of the person I am speaking with. If both parties are ignoring the obvious is it still a platonic conversation? What about when one party denounces the ideas expressed in conversation as sexual? Clearly it's a very fine line. I'd love to hear your opinion on the subject Andrea.

    (Sorry for making these overly long comments by the way. It is difficult for me to condense my opinions on subjects like these. =/ )

  2. Seems you disappeared and abandoned your blog :(

  3. I think it can be platonic, yes.

    And do hope we hear more from you again.

  4. Yes, almost 100% of parental spankings have nothing sexual.
    Whatever the age of the spankee, it's father's (and mother's) duty to punish in a fair way and according to their beliefs.